Faith, Family, Friends, Finances....What Went Wrong?


Sunday early afternoon, Tess, my eight-year old daughter, had a soccer game at the high school very near our home. She played great and scored two goals. However, toward the end of the first half, we heard a plethora of police sirens very near us. Within five minutes the game was cancelled due to threatening weather, and we could see dark clouds rolling in. As such, we packed up and went home. Tess Soccer

We weren't home 10 to 15 minutes when Sandra called on her way back from Jake's cancelled soccer game and noted that the kid's grade school, Valley Park Elementary, was awash in police cars, flashing lights and crime scene tape. Sadly, a man had shot and killed three people at two different locations and been captured, all within a mile or less from our home. Overland Park was in the national news but for all the wrong reasons. Police

How can this horrific event and the tragic impact on the surviving families and friends make any sense? How can someone's life be so distorted, twisted and out of balance that he would resort to such a heinous act? I don't know, but all I can say, his life had to be out of balance.

To avoid leading out-of-balance lives, we all have the ability to lean on people around us when we have questions or problems. I know I do. In addition, many of us have our faith and those in our church family to reach out to as well, because I believe no person is an island. On the other hand, we need to have healthy boundaries. Whether it be an overindulgence in alcohol, drugs, food, infidelity, greed, self-centeredness, hatred-oriented views or very negative attitudes to others, we should not jeopardize ourselves, our families, relatives, friends or what other's have entrusted in us for these temptations or vices.

Like many of you reading this, I believe in God, heaven and hell. In addition, the older I get, the more I find that being a caring and compassionate person, which I still fall short of, is not easy and often requires a balanced, morally and spiritually-grounded life.

Because birds of a feather do flock together, a self-centered, bitter, judgmental, and close-minded lifestyle will attract like-kinded, out-of-balance individuals. The events of this past weekend are truly representative of "you reap what you sow." As a result, I've had conversations with my kids regarding what happened. It is very easy for me to tell my kids that we need to pray for the individuals killed and their families. Yet, it is incredibly hard for me to ask them to do the same for the man who caused this. The following is an amazing video of the woman who lost her son and father and sharing her feelings and beliefs regarding her loss. Honestly, I don't believe I could be as composed and other-focused as she was.

I pray for victims and their families and friends, may God somehow help them find peace from all of this. Also, as a tribute to those who lost their lives, I don't believe we should not stop living life, nor should we live in fear. What may be best is spending more time focusing on other's needs versus our own. I say this because studies have shown this, and I have experienced this myself. When you focus your energies on helping others, it is mentally and physically uplifting; whereas self-centeredness is mentally draining and unhealthy.

I celebrated a birthday last week, yes 39 and holding for a long, long time. That being said, I saw this three-minute video on facebook and thought it was one of the best presents one could receive or give. Even though it ends up being an advertisement at the very end, the video promotes a great message of what doing good for others actually does for us. I hope you view it, enjoy it and share it!


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"It doesn't matter who or where you are, or how successful you become in a worldly a corporate board room, in a hospital operating theatre, setting policy, or managing your private must care for other people."

                   Barbara Bush

 "He who is narrow of vision cannot be big of heart."

                   Chinese Proverb

 "Do not store up riches for yourselves here on earth, where moths and rust destroy, and robbers break in and steal. Instead, store up riches for yourselves in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and robbers cannot break in and steal.  For your heart will always be where your riches are."

                  Matthew 6:19-21


Tony Moeller, CPA

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